2am Friend Request

Happy weekend all!
Last night (at app 2am), I recieved a New Friend request in Facebook. Now why he sent it at that time of the morning, I have no idea. Why I looked at it at that time was just an accident (and also something to do with my addiction to my iPhone and all it contains, but that is probably a story for another post!) I happened to be sleeping upstairs in The Ratbag's room, as I have had a cold all week, and tend to sleep rather noisily (or so husband "Fred" says. I dont agree. I think I am one of those sleepers that, if it wasnt for the lump in the bed, you wouldn't know I was there. I used to be - my sister and I shared a room until she moved out to get married - if I had any odd night time noises, she WOULD have let me know. That's what sisters do! So I refuse to believe I am noisy (until the ....um....OCCASIONAL time that I have woken myself up making some sort of wierd noise. But HE moans in his sleep, like a ghost, so he cant complain!!)) So anyway, I have been the one to move out of the matrimonial bed this time, out of genuine concern for my poor hard working husband, just to let him get his sleep (and I really like the bed in The Ratbag's room!!)
But back onto the Friend request! So The Ratbag stirred at 2am-ish, waking me. I turned on my phone, just to check the time (4 year olds tend to not really need a clock in their room! Princess Attitude, however, has THREE. What appointments she would miss if she didn't know the time, I dont know, considering I am the one who gets her everywhere, but at least she can tell the time!). And there it was - a Friend Request from an old boyfriend! Now, being the shy, quiet, retiring type that I was at school and beyond (BAHAHAHAHAHA, I was actually the type who always had written on my reports "would do MUCH better if she STOPPED SOCIALISING occasionally") I actually didn;t have many serious boyfriends. (Probably as I was too busy having casual ones - dont get me wrong, I did NOT sleep around, but I was a bit of a flirt, and did have a lot of fun!) I also met "Fred" when I was 20, so that doesn't leave that much time in between being too young for serious relationships, and getting married! So I have often wondered about this guy, as we had a relationship that began as best of friends in school, went very intense for a year in Uni, then went on-again-off-again until I finished Uni. We had lots of fun together, unfortunately we also had a lot of doozies of arguments, and all in all, really weren't a match made in heaven. I have never regretted breaking up with him (I think he and I took it in turns to break up with each other, but I'll claim the final one), he and I agreed that we weren't meant to be, I have been very happy with my husband, and have also probably (definately) ended up with a FAR better lifestyle that I would have had I stayed with him. So overall, no hard feelings.
So why is it that I have occasionally wondered over the years about him? I've never wanted to be with him again, I have no desire to retreat into my past, I have a good and happy life.......so this makes me think that maybe it is just a pure natural human reaction (I hope so, anyway, I'd hate to think I was giving you all a glimpse into the beginnings of a psychotic stalker type brain!!) I think it may be a bit of (yes, I AM a bad person) wanting to gloat. Just wanting to know that I HAVE done better (which it looks like I definately have!) and also with that slight, vague, blurry thought right at the back of my mind, that I sort of wonder if he regrets it, and has longed for me all his life!! Again, not because I want him, but just because its always nice to be the object of someone's affections! And there is a genuine interest in how he is, just as there was for other school friends!
So I accepted the Friend Request, sent the standard message about "Hello how are you what have you been up to for the past 20 years" type thing, told my husband (didn't want there to be ANY misunderstanding. Not that there would have been. But just in case!), and now am waiting to hear what his life ended up like! And hoping that any Facebook conversations we have all dont get conducted at 2am in the morning!!!